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The main problems after giving birth to a woman


To talk about postpartum problems, you need to be well aware of what the postpartum period in a woman’s life is, besides the endless troubles.

This period, starting immediately after the birth of the afterbirth and lasting on average 6-8 weeks, is as unique in its physiology as pregnancy, and also differs from the "normal" state of a woman. During this period, the uterus, weighing about 1 kg after childbirth, with an extensive wound surface (the entire inner layer), will constantly contract, decreasing in size and being cleared by excretion of lochia - postpartum secretions. By week 6-8, the uterus will reach normal size, a normal mucous lining will form inside it, and if the woman does not breastfeed, the ovaries will begin to function normally and menstruation will begin. In order for the postpartum period to occur without complications, it is necessary that nothing interfere with the uterine contractions and the outflow of lochia.

Otherwise, complications may develop - bleeding or infection of the uterus that leads a woman to the hospital. First, breastfeeding contributes to the contraction of the uterus — for the first time while sucking, a woman can feel strong enough cramping pain in the lower abdomen and increased excretions, even the discharge of bloody clots - this is absolutely normal. Secondly, regular emptying of the bladder and intestines contributes to the reduction. The first time after birth - 2-5 days - well contributes to the outflow of Lochus lying on the stomach.

The special vulnerability of women during this period dictates special rules of intimate hygiene. Lochia - postpartum discharge, lasts 3-8 weeks, the first days - they are quite abundant, bloody, gradually they become more and more scarce, at first succinic, pale pink, then slimy, whitish. In women who are breastfeeding, lochia stops faster, because the whole process of uterus reversal is faster, and after cesarean section, everything happens more slowly.

If the lochia acquired an unpleasant odor, became purulent, or after the sucking-mucous discharge, bloodshed began again - go to the doctor immediately, this is a sure sign of the development of complications, which, unfortunately, do not go away. Do the same if bleeding continues for more than 15 days. The entire period of bleeding (especially if you have stitches in the perineum or in the vagina), wash off after each visit to the toilet: and “big”, and after urination. Toilet soap is inappropriate, it is best to use either children's or household (thereby terrible, brown) - they dry the skin well, avoiding allergies and weeping. Each time after the toilet, the gasket changes, which changes, at most, after 4 hours (you can buy gaskets cheaper, since the absorbency does not matter here). You will not be lazy - 90% will not be inflammatory complications. The gasket should not "plug" the vagina tightly, there must be free access of air.

It is for this reason that it was categorically forbidden to use shorts in maternity hospitals. Now the "strictness" is smaller. But try to take off your pants yourself as soon as you lie down on the bed so that the discharge flows freely. The entire postpartum period under no circumstances can not use vaginal tampons and douche - the infection is recorded in such a way elementary. For the same reasons, one cannot live sexually - for most nations this period is “forbidden” and the woman is “unclean”. The beginning of sexual life should be unsharp - mucous membranes too vulnerable. Try to use, oddly enough, a condom with a lubricant - it protects against infection (not from venereal, but from banal E. coli, staphylococcus, etc. - "harmless" during normal sex life, after giving birth, getting the opportunity for active growth and "beneficial "the wound surface may cause problems), and in addition, a lubricated condom will provide additional moisture.

All postpartum problems can be divided into 2 large groups - serious complications that require, as a rule, inpatient treatment, and "trifles." The latter are found in one form or another at almost all. “Little things” not only complicate an already difficult life, but also can “spill over” into more serious problems.

In the first days after childbirth, the number of inconveniences and troubles is in the first place with urination and going to the toilet "in a big way". The volume of the abdominal cavity has changed dramatically, the woman often does not feel the urge to empty the bowel and bladder, especially since every visit to the toilet is accompanied by a sore pain. In the first 4-5 days, it is necessary to urinate no less than after 4-5 hours, even if it is unpleasant and unwilling - the body gets rid of accumulated fluid and does not interfere with proper uterine contractions. To stimulate urination, you can turn on a stream of water - the sound of a "falling drop" reflexively relaxes the sphincters of the bladder. If the urine hurts because of the seams, you can try to urinate under a shower or under running warm water. Bathing in the postpartum period is unacceptable!

If you are worried about urinary incontinence, her involuntary separation while laughing, sneezing, perform simple exercises for the pelvic floor muscles every day - which ones, the attending physician will tell you in the maternity hospital. All problems associated with urinary incontinence during regular exercise should pass in 3 months. If during a jump on the spot after 3 months you have urine, go to the doctor, he will determine further tactics.

Constipation is another frequent postpartum nuisance. The overflowed "lazy" intestine causes also unpleasant sensations, interferes with the correct reduction of the uterus, toxins from it are actively absorbed into the bloodstream, penetrating into the milk. Fight against constipation should primarily diet - foods rich in fiber - dried apricots, wholemeal bread, nuts, high-quality pasta, prunes, beets, bran - stimulate the bowels. Remember that when breastfeeding the same products can cause liquid stool in your baby, so try not to stimulate the chair "swoop." Promote bowel activation and exercise, and drinking plenty of fluids. Enema - one of the options to stimulate the chair, but she by no means should become a habit, it is a "one-time" procedure. Laxatives, even the most "innocent", as, indeed, all other drugs, during breastfeeding are prescribed only by a doctor.

During pregnancy and after childbirth, hemorrhoidal veins often "crawl out". In the acute period will help cold compresses (attachment of cubes with ice), the chair - only with a softening candle with glycerin. Replace toilet paper with cotton wool. Be sure to wash with cold water after each visit to the toilet. After a toilet in the anal area, you can leave a cotton swab with olive or sea buckthorn oil. The chair should be "soft", this is achieved by eating a lot of vegetables and fruits, and the same vegetable oil. Special antihemorrhoidal candles can be used only after consulting a doctor - many contain potent drugs that penetrate into milk.

Often with the arrival of milk - for 3-5 days - a woman overtakes depression. Its development is associated with a sharp hormonal adjustment, and with the stress of birth. First, do not blame yourself for weakness, dislike for a child, etc. Negative emotions are visited by very many, nothing “shameful” is not here, especially since postpartum depression in 99% is quickly resolved by itself. Secondly, do not hesitate to talk about your condition to your close ones - a “third-party” reasonable opinion usually allows you to look at the situation from a slightly different angle and understand that nothing terrible is happening. Thirdly, if you feel that nothing goes away by itself, do not be afraid to consult a doctor (obstetrician-gynecologist) - no one will put you on special account, and such depression is usually treated not with psychotropic drugs, but with female hormones.

At first, women are discouraged by their appearance - the figure doesn’t immediately become the same as before pregnancy, and the appearance itself is unlikely to return to the "initial level" - some efforts are needed on your part. Performing light gymnastic exercises will restore a good figure and well-being already in 2-4 months, if you gained less than 12 kg during pregnancy. Nothing needs to be done "swoop", it is better to do a little and more often - 10 minutes, 2 times a day, to allocate yourself quite realistically, even with the very "problem" kid.

Usually, after childbirth, the woman is in the maternity hospital for at least 4 days. Try to use this time with maximum benefit. If you are lying with the baby separately, you will get enough sleep, then there will be no such opportunity. Ask the doctor, midwife, pediatrician as many questions as you can, even "stupid" and boring ones - the first month after discharge you will not have to get acquainted with the special literature, and there will be a lot of problems, even small ones.

Anna Mikushevich, Anna Koroleva,
Zolina Plieva, Tatiana Belova,

Anna Koroleva obstetrician-gynecologist
Anna Mikushevich gynecologist
Zolina Plieva gynecologist
Tatyana Belova gynecologist

The main problems after childbirth in women with health

Lower abdominal pain. After giving birth, the uterus needs to return to its former size (smaller than the woman’s fist), so it begins to shrink. Contractions of the uterus are accompanied by cramping or pulling pains. When breastfeeding, these sensations can increase, as nipple irritation reflexively contributes to the production of the hormone oxytocin, which increases uterine contractions. As a rule, one week after birth, the pain gradually decreases and stops. If the pain is intense enough, you can use painkillers in consultation with your doctor. Exercise after childbirth also helps to reduce discomfort.

Pain in the crotch. Usually there are after breaks or incisions of the perineum. It usually takes 7-10 days to heal the stitches. However, a woman may experience some pain in the perineum, even if she has not had any tears. This is due to the strong stretching of the tissue during childbirth. Such unpleasant sensations disappear on the 2-3rd day of the postpartum period. With very intense pain, you can take painkillers, which will advise the doctor.

Spotting from the vagina. Isolation of blood from the uterus is quite normal after childbirth and occurs because the uterus begins to contract, and the large vessels in the place of the former attachment of the placenta gradually close.

In the first 2-3 days, discharge is bloody, copious and resembles menstrual. From the 3-4th day after birth, they become brownish-brown, their number gradually decreases. By the 10th-14th day, the lochia becomes yellowish. After 5-6 weeks after birth, the discharge from the uterus stops, vaginal discharge becomes the same as before pregnancy. As a rule, during breastfeeding bleeding is more abundant. In the absence of lohii or with bright red and excessively heavy discharge with clots (you have to change several pads in an hour), you should immediately consult a doctor! It is advisable to see an obstetrician-gynecologist in the same hospital where the delivery took place.

Hemorrhoids. During childbirth during the attempts, the woman experiences excessive stress, which is why hemorrhoids can sometimes occur. After birth, they may disappear completely, but in some cases they swell and cause pain. It is possible to reduce pain by using ice frozen in a plastic bottle, which is applied to the perineum for 15-20 minutes 1-2 times a day. Pre-bottle should be wrapped in a clean dry cloth to avoid frostbite. For very severe pains as prescribed by a doctor, it is possible to use special candles.

Constipation. As a rule, the chair is on the 2-3rd day after birth. Many women are afraid that at the same time seams on a crotch can disperse. In fact, this never happens. To normalize the bowels after childbirth, it is recommended to eat raisins, dried apricots, drink more mineral water. Contributes to this and the implementation of postpartum gymnastics. If there is no independent chair on the 4th day after birth, it is better to consult a doctor.

Lack of milk. Regular attachment of the baby to the breast is a natural prevention of milk deficiency. The more often the baby sucks the breast, the more reflexively the milk is produced by the mother. Stagnation of milk leads to a decrease in its production. Therefore, the main rule after childbirth is to feed the baby at his first request, and milk must be decanted (for more details, see the section on breastfeeding). If, despite regular feeding, the baby does not gain weight, it means that there is still not enough milk, and you should consult a doctor. Traditional medicine recommends that when there is a shortage of milk, it is more common to drink black tea with milk or green tea, to eat walnuts up to 4 pieces per day, as well as 100 g of black radish 2-3 times a day. The nettle, oregano, fennel, dill and cumin extracts have a good effect.

Breast engorgement. As a rule, during the first 2-3 days after birth, colostrum, rather than milk, is produced in the mammary glands. It is a liquid that is more fatty than mature milk, rich in proteins, fats, minerals, as well as vitamins, enzymes and hormones, especially essential for a newborn baby in the first days of life. Colostrum is produced in much smaller quantities than breast milk. Therefore, when a large volume of milk comes on the 4-6th day after birth, the mammary glands harden within a few hours, increase in volume, and become painful. It may even slightly increase the temperature. If a woman continues to feed the child, despite the painful sensations, then these unpleasant phenomena disappear on their own in 1-2 days. Special attention should be paid if the temperature reaches high numbers (above 38 °), the pain becomes very sharp, the skin of the mammary gland becomes red and hot to the touch. In this case, an urgent need to consult a doctor! This may be a sign of the onset of mastitis, which may require treatment. It is even necessary to continue breastfeeding while stagnant milk is the cause of inflammation that causes mastitis. You can not put the child to the chest only in the case of purulent mastitis, when droplets of pus are released from the nipple, and the mother, as a rule, the doctor attributes antibiotics. Continue breastfeeding is possible only after completion of the course of treatment.

Cracked nipples. Since the skin of the nipples is very delicate, during pregnancy they must be prepared for feeding with a towel, which daily rub nipples for 1-2 minutes. If a woman did not do this, then in the first days of breastfeeding they can form cracks. To avoid this, you must first apply the child to one breast for 5-7 minutes, and then to the other also for 5-7 minutes. You can buy a special cream in the pharmacy to prevent nipple cracks.

Health problems after childbirth

Urination after childbirth

Do not be surprised if after birth you have reduced urge to urinate. The cause of this problem after delivery may be several factors, including:

  • insufficient fluid intake before and during childbirth,
  • a large loss of fluid during labor (think of sweat, vomiting and bleeding),
  • bruising of the bladder and urethra that occurred during childbirth,
  • the effects of drugs and anesthesia used during childbirth (these types of drugs can temporarily reduce the sensitivity of your bladder and reduce the ability to feel the need to urinate),
  • pain in the perineum, which can cause reflex spasms of the urethra (tube that removes urine from the bladder),
  • fear of urine on the perineal mucosa. You can recover urination with tension and relaxation of the pelvic muscles by increasing fluid intake and putting hot or cold compresses on the crotch area.

If fear prevents you, try increasing your fluid intake, which will reduce the acidity of your urine. In addition, you can try to sit on the toilet astride, legs spread wide, and urinate while pouring water on the crotch at the same time, or - if you are really desperate - urinate in the shower.

Do not worry that you will suffer this problem after giving birth all the time: soon you will notice that you run to the toilet at regular intervals when your body begins to come in order after giving birth and to get rid of excess fluid accumulated during pregnancy.

If you have a strong burning sensation after urinating or a strong, painful and unusually frequent urination, you may have a urinary tract infection. В этом случае следует пить больше клюквенного сока без сахара и посоветоваться со своим врачом о лечении.

Недержание мочи после родов

Некоторые женщины сталкиваются с противоположной проблемой после родов - недержанием мочи. Обычно оно проходит в течение первых шести недель после родов (особенно если вы регулярно делаете упражнения), но тем не менее это доставляет массу неудобств.

Проблемы со стулом после родов

Lack of food during childbirth and a temporary decrease in the muscle tone of the intestines can lead to the fact that you will not have a chair for several days after birth. And when the urge to defecate still appears, you may find it difficult to relax and allow nature to do its job for fear that it may cause pain to the sensitive area of ​​the perineum and / or painful hemorrhoids, damage the stitches.

The best way to deal with this problem is to increase the amount of fluid and fiber consumed (prunes, pears or apricot nectar, fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains), avoid food and drinks that contain caffeine (coffee, cola and chocolate), and also be rolling as far as possible. This will help you. keep stools soft and regular.

Lower abdominal pain after childbirth

A few days after giving birth, your pain may begin. These postpartum contractions of the uterus can vary from almost imperceptible to agonizing (some women have to resort to breathing, as in childbirth, to cope with pain.) The pain is most intense when you are breastfeeding, because breastfeeding causes oxytocin, a hormone that causes uterine contraction.

While the pains are quite mild after the first birth, they can be very strong after the birth of the second and subsequent children. If you experience severe discomfort, you can ask your doctor to prescribe a pain medicine that you can safely take while breastfeeding. Or you can bite the bullet and wait until the pain disappears. (You will notice that the frequency and intensity of the pain will decrease within two days after the birth, and they will gradually disappear after the next few weeks).

Abdominal muscle separation

In some women, possible problems after childbirth are associated with diastasis of the rectus abdominis muscles (separation of the direct muscles that extend from the chest to the pubic joint). This separation of muscles can be corrected with abdominal exercises.

Weakness after childbirth

Do not be surprised if you feel tired during the first few days after birth. The balance of fluids in the body after childbirth varies greatly, and the cardiovascular system will take some time to adapt to this.

If fatigue lasts more than a few days, ask your doctor for an analysis to determine if you have anemia (iron deficiency). Believe it or not, even a small loss of blood during childbirth can lead to this condition. Fortunately, in most cases, this problem can be solved by taking additional doses of iron, which is less likely to cause constipation than taking other iron supplements.

Chills after childbirth

It is rather unusual to feel chills immediately after you have given birth to a child. Researchers believe that this is due to a change in body temperature after you said goodbye to pregnancy. Usually, all that is required to stop a chill is to take shelter with a warm blanket with a baby in her arms.

Sweating after childbirth

One of the ways that your body gets rid of excess fluid that is mowed during pregnancy is sweating. You will sweat more than usual, especially at night. You can cover the sheet and pillow with a towel so that it absorbs sweat. Scientists believe that sweating is caused by a sudden drop in estrogen levels, which can make you feel hot flushes, like during menopause, for a week or two after giving birth.

Sore crotch after childbirth

Often you can hear the following phrase from the pregnant women: the first days with the baby would be just wonderful if not for the perineal incision. Alas, this is a fact. Two-thirds of women who underwent an incision during childbirth or, especially, had a gap, have problems with injury. They do not know how they can sit, they are scared every time they visit the toilet, they do not stop the pain. However, against these ailments is quite possible to do something.

First aid for pain in the perineum:

  1. The best course of treatment will be sit-down baths with tannins such as oak bark (you can buy Tannolact at the pharmacy). Do not use the opportunity to take the extract with you to the hospital. The day after birth ask a nurse to take a bath for you. After discharge from the hospital, the course of treatment can be carried out in a bidet, since it is often not enough time to take a real bath.
  2. Discard ointments and creams, they can cause additional irritation. It is better to gently massage the seam with oil of Hypericum.
  3. For washing it is better to take clean warm water, because Soapy substances cause irritation.
  4. If there is pain when you visit the toilet, after the toilet is lowered, you should additionally flush the seam with warm water.
  5. When inflammation is always useful cooling. Put a few pieces of ice in a wet disposable glove and cool the wound for about 2 minutes. But no longer, otherwise it may form blistering inflammation.
  6. In the early days, an inflatable ring for the stool reduces pain when sitting.

After one or two weeks, the perineal incision should heal completely. If you still have problems, immediately contact a gynecologist.

Specialist commentary

A few questions about the postpartum period answered Elena Nikolaevna Mayasina, obstetrician-gynecologist, cms

- The postpartum period is a period when the woman's body is restored and returns to its original state, as before pregnancy, and lactation is also established. The postpartum period begins, respectively, after giving birth and lasts for 8 weeks.

What happens to a woman's body after childbirth?

  1. Immediately after giving birth, the size of the uterus decreases and decreases, by the end of the 1st day after birth the uterus floor is at the navel level and further the height of the uterus floor decreases by about 2 cm per day (which approximately corresponds to the size of one transverse finger) and by the end the postpartum period, its dimensions correspond to the non-pregnant state. Contraction of the uterus may be manifested by slight pulling pains in the lower abdomen for several days after the birth, which increases when breastfeeding, because applying to the chest helps produce hormone - oxytocin, which provides uterine reduction
  2. After giving birth, when the uterus contracts, the contents of its cavity are also emptied in the form of bleeding (like menstruation), they are called lochia. In the first days, the lochia has a bright red color, from the third day their color changes and becomes darker and brown, and by the 10th day the lochia takes on the appearance of mucous secretions.
  3. Mammary glands - under the action of the hormone prolactin, which is also actively produced after delivery, the mammary glands increase in size, in the first day colostrum is released from the nipples - a thick yellow liquid, for 3-4 days milk production begins.

How to behave after childbirth?

  1. In taking care of the baby, it is important not to forget about personal hygiene, again to reduce the risk of inflammatory processes, during the period of discharge from the genital tract it is recommended to change the pads every 2-3 hours, to use cotton underwear.
  2. It is enough to wash the mammary glands 1-2 times a day with running water, taking a shower. You do not need to wash your breasts before each feeding - frequent breast washing, especially with the use of soap, can lead to dry nipples and the formation of cracks, which is a risk factor for inflammation of the breast (mastitis). After feeding, it is advisable to lubricate the nipple with the drops of the remaining milk or use a special nipple cream. Some types of creams are safe for the baby and do not require rinsing before the next baby feeding.
  3. In the postpartum period (2 months after delivery), it is recommended to refrain from sexual intercourse.
  4. 2 months after the birth, a gynecologist needs to be examined and consulted to make sure that the recovery process was carried out without complications.
  5. Restoration of the ovaries and menstruation can begin quite early, even when breastfeeding, so be sure to discuss with the gynecologist how and how to prevent pregnancy while the baby is very small.
  6. Repeated pregnancy is recommended to plan no earlier than 2 years after delivery.

When should I see a doctor immediately in the first two months after delivery?

  1. The temperature rises above 38 degrees.
  2. Increased volume, discoloration and / or poking of unpleasant odor of secretions from the genital tract.
  3. Consolidation, pain, redness, local temperature increase in the breast area.

How to restore your health after giving birth

Consider some recommendations that will help restore health after pregnancy and childbirth. Perform them whenever possible, trying to combine with a full care for the newborn:

  • get enough sleep - try to go to bed with your child - day and night, if you are not able to sleep at night,
  • walk in the fresh air - you need to walk at least 2 hours a day, it will be easy to do, because the child has the same needs. Do not forget to ventilate the room to avoid oxygen starvation, to ensure a good night's sleep,
  • eat right - try to include meat, dairy products, butter and cheese in your diet. Remember that one piece of beef can cover the body’s daily iron requirements,
  • keep drinking mode - at this stage you need to drink about 3 liters of water a day to stimulate lactation, to ensure your well-being,
  • monitor the regularity of the stool, if necessary, reconsider the diet, visit the doctor in order to prescribe laxatives or bifidobacteria,
  • take vitamins - after consultation with the doctor, you can start taking calcium and iron preparations to eliminate the deficiency of these substances in the body,
  • visit doctors - you need to go to the gynecologist within the specified time after delivery, if necessary, you must also visit an endocrinologist in order to be able to restore hormonal balance,
  • monitor the physical condition of the body - regularly perform gymnastics, do exercises aimed at strengthening the abdominal muscles and perineum,
  • attend special courses that will help master the rapid and effective methods of restoring the body: emotional state, shape.

You must admit that these rules are not so complicated; therefore, you can easily ensure their implementation if you have the desire. Try to take into account all the recommendations in order to regain vigor, beauty and health. So you can provide the child with proper care, and her husband to return a beautiful and happy wife. After all, many of those who cease to take care of themselves lose their cheerful appearance, turn into exhausted and weary mommies, who often experience stress and mood swings. The latter can affect the child's behavior, family life in general.

Remember, if you do not have enough time for yourself, ask your husband to help you with the child, set the days when you can spend a few hours for yourself. Believe me, the husband will certainly agree to help, only to see a beautiful, healthy and happy wife next to him.


There are several problems here: the first is the prevailing opinion that if “I have a small breast”, then she does not need to feed her, because it does not work, there will be little milk, the baby will not be able to eat enough, and so on. All this is very common nonsense, which even do not need to listen.

It happens that the breast is big, but there is no milk, and, on the contrary, the breast is small, and there is plenty of milk. Problem number two - in the first couple of days after birth there is no milk. And is this a problem? This is normal!

In the first 2-4 days, colostrum is released, which is low, but it is several times more nutritious than ordinary milk, so the baby eats up completely. The main thing is to constantly put the baby to the chest, and then in the future you will have no problems with it.

Blood discharge from the vagina

In the first few weeks after birth, this is absolutely normal, which is associated with the restoration of the uterine mucous membrane, which suffered a little during or after the birth of the baby.

The most abundant discharge - the first three days after birth, but at this time you are under the supervision of a physician. In the next 4-5 weeks, the bleeding will resemble the usual early days of menstruation, they may have a rather dark color, go along with clots. Seek medical attention only if the discharge becomes too heavy and bright red.

In the first days after birth, severe pain in the lower abdomen, sharp, resembling contractions can be observed. Do not worry, this is quite a normal phenomenon, indicating a contraction of the uterus and its return to the previous form. Often, such pains can occur during lactation, 5-7 days after birth, the pain should disappear.

Stool problems and constipation after childbirth

As soon as the baby was born, the stomach begins to get used to its new state, because during pregnancy it was severely compressed, which could cause poor food permeability and constipation. That is why most women in labor several hours before giving birth are offered an enema to avoid involuntary emissions during the birth of the baby.

If this is so, then in the first few days after giving birth the chair of the young mother may be absent, if there was no enema, then the intestine begins to function in the first day. If it took about 6 days, and the chair has not returned to normal, then you should consult a doctor. Usually in such cases do an enema.

The main thing is to restore normal functioning in the postpartum period, for this it is important to eat right - eat those fruits and vegetables that are rich in fiber and relieve from problems with the chair.

It is important that these products do not harm the baby, because almost all young mothers breastfeed the baby. These universal products include pumpkin, zucchini, eggplant, boiled carrots and beets, pears, apples, bananas, cherries or gooseberries.

Also, the work of the intestine favorably affects prunes, sunflower or olive oil, which should be consumed in 1 tablespoon per day.

Problems with husband after childbirth: lack of sex and attention

A few weeks after the birth of a child, you have been home for a long time, surrounded your baby with care and attention, and everything seems to be good, but it’s time to remember about your marital duties, which, quite possibly, now are not at all joyful.

Most often the cause of this phenomenon - catastrophic fatigue and fear. And if with fatigue, you can somehow argue, then fear sits at the level of the subconscious, which prevents a woman from opening up again in front of her beloved man. First, young mothers often complain of pain and discomfort after giving birth during intercourse.

Remember that you can resume sex life no earlier than 4-6 weeks after birth, and to avoid all fears about the incomplete healing of the vagina or uterus, it is necessary to consult with your gynecologist.

As soon as he gives good, then in physiological terms, you should not be problems.

The next moment is “I'm not attractive”! This is a frequent phenomenon that haunts many women, because the figure of a girl turns into a female.

Remember that it is easy to pull up the tummy, and the masculine look is not as picky as the feminine, many men, on the contrary, like the “roundness” and “femininity”, the main thing, of course, is not to start yourself up to excess weight.

In fact, diminution of libido is normal for a young mother, because the body has filled its need for motherhood and, while the baby is very young, the mother simply does not need another baby.

This causes a decrease in the pleasure hormone, which is responsible for arousal. Try to restore romance in your relationship: light massage, aromatic oils and a romantic atmosphere will play a role in your relaxation.